Letting go…

I talk to people.  I talk to people a lot!  I get to know them.  I love hearing life stories…the happy stuff, sad times, troubles, proud moments, joyful memories, etc.  I must admit though, I always hear stories about that one person that was just never happy with anything.  You know the one…he/she gets mad at nothing, blames everyone but themselves when shit goes wrong, never says positive things, etc.  We all know one!

They could be an aunt, uncle, mom, dad, sibling, so-called friend.  And I may not be the smartest or give the best advice, but here goes.  LET GO!  Stop trying to please someone who doesn’t care.  Stop being overly nice to someone who is constantly ugly to you.  Don’t beat yourself up when they say or act like everything is your fault.  Please understand that I’m not saying you should be mean and hateful.  Just stop wasting energy and getting stressed for something that isn’t your issue to fix.  It takes two people to make a relationship work.  Friends and family relationships take work, but you gotta work together.  If that person is not willing to do his/her part, let go.

I have personally dealt with a person like this.  I tried and tried and tried until I thought I would go crazy.  I talked, apologized, was so nice, gave space, took the silent treatment, dealt with the hateful words….and for what?  Life is a little too short to wade waist deep in crap.  Some people just need some time to come around.  They need to take a good look and realize you’re important too.  And you need to realize your life can’t revolve around just one person who doesn’t give 100%.  I know some of this comes off as me being cold and mean, but I promise I’m not.

Anyway, I hope this little bit helps and feel free to comment and vent!  Venting does a lot of good!  And feel free to disagree as well!  Haha…I know this has probably made a few people think I’m horrible.

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Attraction…how is it measured?

Today, with all the magazine ads and popularity contests and pressure….damn, looking good has become a major headache.

Society plays a major role in appearance today.  Magazines push for the perfect skinny shape with all their clothing ads.  Weight loss companies make a fortune dishing out empty promises and their get skinny quick schemes.  Mean ass women make overweight women feel ugly and gross.  The list goes on and on with the negativity aimed towards overweight women.

We’ve all heard it before…your hair can be curly or straight, but never frizzy, flat, or unkept.  Your face must be free and clear of acne and makeup perfectly applied.  Accessories are a must.  Earrings, rings, bracelets, and necklaces must match the outfit.  Oh and the outfits.  Clothes should be fitted and clingy in all the right places.  The more skin you got showing the better.  Jeans must flaunt your figure and your butt has to have that flattering upside down heart look going on.  Shoes…damn shoes!  Heels, boots, flats…gotta have all different kinds and coordinating them with outfits is a necessity.  And let’s not forget body shape!  It never seems to matter how tall or short a woman is, just the size of her clothes.  Size 0-2 seems to be the going thing.

But do all those things really matter that much?  I mean, my hair usually does whatever the hell it wants to do.  My face has tons of freckles and I rarely wear makeup.  Makeup just seems to be unnecessary to me.  My face needs to breathe dammit!  I don’t wear any jewelry except my wedding rings.  Clothes…just jeans and t-shirts for me.  Yea, sounds lame I know.  Have I wanted to wear those cute designer clothes before?  Sure.  But at the cost of not being myself or trying to fit in just doesn’t appeal to me.  I think I only own three pairs of shoes.  Bodyshape…UGH!  Well, let’s just say round is a shape!  I’m not the skinniest chick and I’m not the biggest, but I’m me.  Shouldn’t that be good enough?

Losing weight is a priority for me.  I admit, I do seem to struggle with the motivation part, but shouldn’t health be the main focus?  Instead of outward beauty being such a main concern, shouldn’t being healthy matter more?

And besides health, what about the idea of who a person really is?  What about their personality, their feelings, their compassion for others?  These qualities make a woman beautiful as well.  Outside looks shouldn’t be so damn important.  So many women and young girls go through hard times battling their weight.  Lots of women don’t feel worthy just because they are the wrong shape and size.  It’s high time everyone stops putting so much focus on those things.  Being happy and healthy need to be priorities.

So, in closing, please throw out the mind paralyzing idea of having to look a certain way to fit in or make someone love you.  Be yourself, whoever that may be.  Make health a priority in your life.  Being healthy will keep you around for a long time and will make you feel better than being a part of any “clique” ever could.

Love yourself.  When you do that, you shine!  That makes you attractive!

Questions I have…

Just a few questions I have…

  • If pro and con are opposites, wouldn’t the opposite of progress be congress?  It kinda fits when you use the pro and con definitions…don’t ya think?
  • Why does everyone walk into an elevator, turn around and face the doors?  I have walked into an elevator and just faced the corner before.  People stared at me like I needed a straight jacket!
  • Doesn’t it make you nervous that what a doctor does for a living is called “practice”?  hmmmm
  • Why do they put Braille on the bank drive-through?  Think about that one folks!
  • Why does the word “lisp” have an “s” in it?  Ain’t that kinda cruel?  LOL
  • Why aren’t hemorrhoids called asteroids?  It would make sense to me!
  • Why is it called a funny bone even though it’s not so damn funny when you hit it?

Juicing

Health…It is such a huge topic nowadays.  Many people want to change their weight and appearance.  Through talking with several people and reading posts about the struggles we all go through,  I have decided to try a lifestyle change and share it with you.

I recently watched a documentary called Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead by Joe Cross.  Mr. Cross decided to go on a juicing fast for 60 days to reboot and detox his body.  Now, before I go any further…this is not medical advice that I am giving and you should really talk to your doctor before doing this fast.  I am not a doctor or nurse and my intentions are only to inform you of what I have learned and share my experience.

Now, with that said, I watched this documentary and was amazed that the human body could survive for 60 days based only on the consumption of juice from fresh fruits and vegetables.  Mr. Cross totally transformed his body by juicing all kinds of these foods.  He used kale, spinach, cucumbers, apples, oranges, celery, carrots and many others.  He lost a ton of weight and was able to come off the medications that his body was dependent on.  I am not on any medications and I do not have any medical problems that would prohibit me from trying this lifestyle change.  I have juiced over the past couple of weeks but must confess that I have had solid foods within that time as well.  To be honest, I was a little nervous about not consuming “food” for so long.  The idea of not chewing your food kinda hits you the first day or two.  It sounds crazy but you actually miss chewing and eating food.

But I am comfortable enough and determined to change my lifestyle now.  The plan I am about to start consists of 30 days of juicing and moderate exercise.  I will be using foods such as kale, celery, spinach, cucumbers, apples, oranges, carrots, strawberries, cantaloupe, tomatoes, peppers and possibly a few others.  I do not have a set number of times per day to juice.  I will juice in the mornings and juice throughout the day when I get hungry.  In between those “meals” I will be drinking water only!  My exercise, at this time, will consist of walking/jogging.  I do have the P90X program and have intentions of using it within this time frame as well.  I will update once a week or so to let you know of any progress, changes or any problems I have.

Before I end this post I just want to add…..Changing your health habits is a big deal.  It takes time and dedication.  You cannot expect change to happen overnight.  No matter what you choose to do to make your life healthier, it will take time!  And changes do not have to be so radical either.  Instead of juicing, you could just add walking daily or eating more fruits and veggies or taking the stairs over the escalator…small changes make big differences too!  Don’t give up and don’t give in.  No one can make this change but you and you have to WANT to make this change.