I talk to people. I talk to people a lot! I get to know them. I love hearing life stories…the happy stuff, sad times, troubles, proud moments, joyful memories, etc. I must admit though, I always hear stories about that one person that was just never happy with anything. You know the one…he/she gets mad at nothing, blames everyone but themselves when shit goes wrong, never says positive things, etc. We all know one!
They could be an aunt, uncle, mom, dad, sibling, so-called friend. And I may not be the smartest or give the best advice, but here goes. LET GO! Stop trying to please someone who doesn’t care. Stop being overly nice to someone who is constantly ugly to you. Don’t beat yourself up when they say or act like everything is your fault. Please understand that I’m not saying you should be mean and hateful. Just stop wasting energy and getting stressed for something that isn’t your issue to fix. It takes two people to make a relationship work. Friends and family relationships take work, but you gotta work together. If that person is not willing to do his/her part, let go.
I have personally dealt with a person like this. I tried and tried and tried until I thought I would go crazy. I talked, apologized, was so nice, gave space, took the silent treatment, dealt with the hateful words….and for what? Life is a little too short to wade waist deep in crap. Some people just need some time to come around. They need to take a good look and realize you’re important too. And you need to realize your life can’t revolve around just one person who doesn’t give 100%. I know some of this comes off as me being cold and mean, but I promise I’m not.
Anyway, I hope this little bit helps and feel free to comment and vent! Venting does a lot of good! And feel free to disagree as well! Haha…I know this has probably made a few people think I’m horrible.