Substitute teacher out of a job for reporting child abuse!

I’m sure you are scratching your head wondering how in the hell this is possible.  I was in shock when I read the story as well.  Apparently, this woman DID HER JOB and reported the child abuse on Feb 7th, 2013.  Since then she has lost her job…Really?!?

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Kristina Harman, the HERO of the story, has been through the ringer since reporting a child abuse issue at the school she worked at.  How does a woman get fired for doing her job???  Think about this folks.  She did her job, she stood up for what is right, she did her best to protect an abused child…does any of that justify her losing her job?  Here is the direct post that she posted on her Facebook page…

ATTENTION! READ THIS ABOUT T.G. SCOTT
HELP PROTECT THE STUDENTS OF MONROE COUNTY GEORGIA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Georgia law states that any employ or volunteer in Monroe County schools is MANDATED to report child abuse. I am a substitute teacher for this school system so it is my legal responsibility to report, which I did witness and report on Feb 7th 2013. I give myself a pat on the back, not only for doing my job, but for do…ing what is right! I pride the ASSISTANT Principals at TG Scott Elementary in Forsyth, Ga for doing their job. They took immediate action and I was prided on protecting the child, afterall, I am there to protect the child and not the schools image, correct??? Myself and the other witness both provided written statements and returned to our duties. I did not discuss the case with anyone else in the school. My involvement was legally confidential. My confidentiality was broken. Everyone knew my name, knew my involvement and steered clear of me.
 On Feb 12th 2013, I met with a social worker for Monroe County schools as well as a sheriff at their request. I again gave a statement and was prided and thanked numerous times. Why wouldnt they have thanked me? Arent they proud that I did the right thing and that this isnt swept under the rug? Of course they were!
Well, that statement ended up in the incident reports of the local paper, The Monroe County Reporter, on Feb 20th 2013. I had no idea because I do not subscribe to the paper. I became aware the following week when approached by a concerned parent in the parking lot of TG Scott. At that moment, I realized I wasent being called for that school anymore (the school my daughter attended). My husband asked me not to jump the gun so I waited a few weeks before asking the Principal on March 7th 2013 why I was no longer getting called. He informed me that he was advised to completely remove me from the list until the investigation was over. WAIT! WHAAAT? Who is on trial here? When did it become legal to retaliate, terminate, or remove any paid worker or even volunteer from a list because they did their job. Humm… Puzzled? That makes two of us. Side Note: Other witness involved is still employed. Wondering what the differences between she and I is? Me too!
 I immediately contacted the Assistant Superintentent, my “boss” will you, and set up a meeting with him for today, March 13th 2013. Ill get to that lovely conversation in a moment. As I sat all weekend, I thought and I thought! Wait a minute, my child is not safe in this school! I was shunned for reporting abuse. You made an example out of me. You showed these teachers they had to choose between feeding their children and protecting ours. Let me get this straight, They serve jail time if they dont report but when they do, they lose their job for some amount of time? They are punished? Wow! Yesterday, March 12th 2013, I withdrew my daughter from Pre K. She was ecstatic! Since the paper ran, she had also felt retaliated against and would tell me the incidents occuring like getting put on the bad square, (teacher said she did nothing wrong) she just put her there when she moved the class… humm…??? Several other things but Ill save those for court. This brings us to today, I met with Mike Hickman. Man, is he a character. He has been in management for some time Im sure by the way he answered questions with another question, avoided answering most of mine, and spent the whole maybe 5 minutes justifying and contradicting himself. He let me know that though his removing me did have to do with the child abuse case, it wasent because I reported child abuse. I replied that, that makes zero since, he replied thats your opinion. That made me laugh and again Ill say, that makes zero sense. He told me he was over everything and could remove whoever he wanted when he got ready (or something to that affect). I asked why the other witness was still employed. He said sometimes we have to make decisions and thats the one we made. Seriously? That’s your answer, okay Ill take it…. Straight to my lawyer. I let him know I would be pursuing this case and going to all media outlets. If we dont spread the word, we are failing these children. The teachers will fear reporting and will fail to report because they need to feed their children. Which is why I refused to work other schools under Mike Hickman. I cant do my job knowing if I witness and report abuse again I no longer have a job. The teachers cant do theirs either. I took this job to protect the children, not the schools image. The Principal (from what Ive been told) hates negative media and was embarrassed by it making the paper. But why? It said you saved the child! Hello? That is not negative media, oh but this IS! I am asking you all to share, share, share! Please! Until this is big enough that they cant hide it and it is made sure these teachers wont follow in my footsteps or fear following in my footsteps, I truely believe these students are in danger! PLEASE!
So, there you have it!  I am appalled by the way this situation has progressed!  This woman seems to have done her job and then got punished for it.  We, as parents, want to know that our children are in good hands while they are at school during the day.  If you’ve got teachers being fired for doing their job and reporting issues like this then the fear sets in.  They fear losing their income for protecting a child.  What kind of sense does that make?
I am waiting to receive the article from the paper there about this incident.  Just as soon as I get it I will post a follow-up.
Please feel free to search her name on Facebook and share her story.  Let’s give ’em the negative media so incidents like this do not continue to happen!  And to Kristina Harman, thank you for doing what you did.  As a parent, it is comforting to know there are teachers out there willing to speak up for the children.
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Outside the Army Wife Club…

The dreaded Army Wife Club…

We know what that is and what it means, but how many of us have been kicked out and avoided like we are aliens?  For those who aren’t familiar with this “club”…it’s basically the “accepted” status a lot of wives depend on.  For example, your husband just began working in a new unit and you don’t know anyone.  So, you may go to one of the unit’s functions or attend a FRG meeting.  You may begin taking your child to same park that some of the other wives go to.  Plan cookouts and get-togethers to become acquainted with the new bunch.  Whatever.  Once you’re accepted into the group, the game kinda changes.  That’s an entirely different post though!  Haha

Anyway, now you know the club is basically like a clique in highschool.  Not all are bad, trust me.  I know I make it out like that sometimes, but there are a lot of really good women out there.  They are smart, funny, dependable, honest, sympathetic, etc.  The list could go on and on.  Then there are the ones that treat friendships like damn clubs and once you’re out….you’re out!

Deployments tend to bust up these little clubs…which sucks because that’s when you need each other the most.  But I’ve seen a lot of posts on Facebook and blogs the past week discussing this issue.  Generally, the stories have been the same.  The top two have been…

1.  During the deployment, I have been ignored constantly by the other wives.  They were my friends and now they don’t acknowledge that I’ve walked into the room.  Once the deployment began most of them were going out together on the weekends to bars and stuff.  I chose not to go.  I have a child/children and preferred to be at home.  The moment I didn’t agree with what they were doing, I was basically kicked out of the “club”.

2.  My husband came home from deployment due to an injury.  (I’ve seen this one quite a few times, just within this past week.)  Once he got home, the other wives have completely ignored me.  They refuse to talk to me, hang out, or even answer my phone calls now.  I don’t understand what I did so wrong.  My husband was injured…so why hate me?

Look, these Army wives are not worth a damn!  They will judge you and talk about you till no end.  You will find wives that tend to party and shop like crazy once a deployment starts.  Those women, if you decide, are not worth your time.  Personally, those women are the ones responsible for the crappy reputation we get.  Don’t let it get to you and be glad you don’t associate with them.  Just because you don’t head to bars and party doesn’t mean you are not worthy.  It just means that they can’t handle someone pointing out what they do wrong and choosing to be a better person.  (And before anyone goes nuts…by partying I mean partying hard!  That could be every single weekend, all weekend long and/or drinking it up during the week at bars and such.)   As for the husband being injured and sent home early issue…those women are just jealous.  They still have months to go before their husband comes home and just wanna find a way to distance themselves from you.  They look for an excuse to hate you…and most tend to make shit up.  You’ll find that a lot of them even go as far to say that your husband faked his injury!  Who would want to be a part of that damn club anyway???

Yesterday was a prime example…I was skimming through a Facebook page and came across an active post.  The post made it clear that this was from an anonymous woman who had emailed the page admin.  It simply stated that the woman had fertility issues and that her doctor had offered the suggestion of an Army wife being a surrogate.  Now, remaining open-minded, there are several reasons why the doctor could have suggested this.  The woman was simply asking if anyone would be interested.  Anyway, there was this one woman who went on a hate spree…aiming hateful remarks toward Ms. Anonymous.  Hater woman was claiming that she was just trying to misuse Tricare blah blah blah.  Several other women pointed out that Tricare, or any type of health insurance, was never even mentioned.  This woman was only doing what her doctor had suggested.  Not once did Ms. Anonymous talk about using Tricare for the surrogate.  Hater woman got a lot of comments from people wanting to know why she was creating drama and being so judgemental.  See???  Prime example of how some women just create drama out of nothing just to create problems and cause issues.  Some of these women will simply look for any reason/excuse to hate you.  They live for drama and will go as far to make shit up just to keep right on talking.

If you find yourself in these situations, sit back and think for a second.  Do you really wanna stress and worry about what these women say and do?  Nope!  Find friends outside the unit if you need to.  Find friends that aren’t tied to the military too.  There is nothing wrong with going outside the “norm” and just finding good people.  And keep in mind…there are some really awesome Army wives out there.  I know it seems like an endless search sometimes, but trust me, they are there.

Bully makes comments about news anchor…

I came across this article this morning.  http://www.upworthy.com/bully-calls-news-anchor-fat-news-anchor-destroys-him-on-live-tv?g=3&c=ucfb1

A bully decided to make some rather crappy remarks about a news anchor and her weight.  The video is a must see!  I am very proud of this woman for taking a stand and saying something about it.  Her response was tasteful and in no way did she “bash” or pick on the idiot that wrote the email.

I think this whole bullying issue has seriously gotten out of hand.  People seem to say and do whatever they want regardless of who they hurt in the process.  Personally, I have no respect for a bully and I think their parents should have delivered a few ass whoopins somewhere along the way.  My parents taught me to respect others and to take up for the ones that I see having to deal with being picked on and treated badly.

I encourage the kids out there to help.  If you see your friend being picked on, speak up.  You can stand your ground right then and there.  You can tell a teacher.  You can tell your parents.  But do something.  Don’t let this continue.  I also encourage the adults to do the same thing.  Stop it if you see a child being picked on or circled around at your child’s school.  Call the principal, the bully’s parents, or the Board of Education.  Hell, get the police involved.  Bullying leads to some pretty severe consequences and no one deserves to suffer at the hand of insecure people who feel the need to make others feel bad just to make themselves feel better.

And back to the event that lead to the post….I applaude this news anchor for being strong and bringing the situation to the surface.  I think she handled the situation in a very composed manner and still got her point across.  Good job!

Drama among Military wives 2

Well damn, looks like the drama is heating up again!  I have come across several things here lately dealing with the ladies being vicious and hateful.  Before I go into them I have an opinion I’d like to share with you.  I don’t care what color you are, what shape you have or what size clothes you wear…good and decent people and, of course, the bad ones come in all shapes, sizes and colors.  I don’t believe in judging anyone based on appearance.  What people do with their personal lives is not my concern…as long as it doesn’t harm my family.  Everyone is different and things that go on behind other’s closed doors is their business.  Judging others is conceited and wrong…in my opinion!

Now, I’ve been reading more and more posts online and seen the viciousness of gossip lately.  All the “he said, she said” is a bit ridiculous.  So many of the military wives, not ALL of them…so don’t jump just yet!,  do their best to keep up with what is going on in everyone else’s lives.  Lots of them spend their days trying to keep track of which wife or soldier has been lying, cheating, misbehaving, etc.  They make calls to see who did what last weekend or who got “home late” from work…blah blah blah.  For what???  Why make their lives the center of yours?  Why let the actions or possible actions of others consume your day?  If someone lives their life in a way you find offensive, simply do not hang out with them.  It is that simple.  I have also seen posts of someone sharing specific details of someone’s problems.  Why do that?  If a wife calls for advice, be kind and help out or gracefully bow out of the situation.  Don’t take her hardship and share it with the world.  Don’t blast her name and her business for all to see.

Next on the list…RANK!  Please please please realize that your husband’s rank is his own, not yours.  His rank does not apply to you, nor does it get you anything.  He earned his rank with hard work and dedication…and putting up with all the shit he has to on a daily basis!  There is nothing wrong, however, with being patriotic and showing your pride.  Be proud of your husband and his accomplishments.  Be proud that he serves his country.  But don’t, for one second, think that anyone owes you anything.  Your husband chose his career and you chose to be his wife.  Choosing to be his wife comes with a different lifestyle than that of a civilian, yes.  BUT no one owes you anything for being a “military wife”.

The last one is the nasty one….so before I go any further, let me remind you that this is my opinion.  This is something I feel very strongly about.  Some will agree and some will disagree.  Those that disagree…I know the shitty comments and excuses may be left in the comments.  Go right ahead…it will just help make my point.  And before anyone gets all technical…yes, I said shitty comments and excuses because that is my opinion of them.

drum roll please!  haha…….CYBER BULLYING!  Ahhh…the one that makes a lot of people roll their eyes!  My first post about drama among military wives caused a little bit of an uproar.  I know there are sites out there that seem to have the sole purpose of picking out certain military wives and bashing the hell outta them online.  Personally, I think it is one of the most low and cowardly things to do to someone.  The OSMW site was mentioned in the last one and to my knowledge, is still actively bullying women.  Call it bullying or don’t call it bullying…I don’t care.  Taking pictures of women because you don’t like their clothes or their weight and then posting them for the world to see is wrong and should come with consequences.  A lot of the members on that site claim to only judge someone’s attitude and/or personality.  Yet, the main focus remains to be a woman’s weight.  The number on a damn scale does not define who someone is!!!  Pictures like that shouldn’t be allowed at all, in my opinion.  And so what…you see a woman wearing clothing that you think is too tight or too revealing.  What gives anyone the right to post their picture on the internet for the world to see?  All the energy these women put into being hateful as hell, taking pictures (instead of other useful tasks) and being on Facebook all damn day could be put to better use.  They should think of all the misery they cause.  I don’t know about anyone else but at the end of the day I wouldn’t want to be the type of person that spent my day making someone’s life miserable.  Focusing on family and your own business should be a top priority.  Anyway, I hope cyber bullying is stopped soon.  No one should have their life torn to pieces for no reason.

Thanks for reading.

Cyber-bullying needs to be stopped!

I recently did a post, https://armyliving13.wordpress.com/2012/03/25/drama-among-military-wives/, that deals with a particular Facebook page called Overly Sensitive Military Wives.  This page (along with its owner, admins and members) is a perfect example of cyber-bullying at its worst.  These people choose to take photos of women and children and bash them online for all to see.  They, of course, claim that most of these pictures are pulled off internet…that is a COMPLETE LIE!  These photos they post are even labeled with the particular military base they were taken at.  They each travel on post and visit the PX and Commissary to take pictures of people just to post and take turns making derogatory comments.  I am so sick of the idiots associated with this page saying I have missed the whole point of this page and try to say that they are only trying to point out bad parenting and the wearing of ACU’s.  Four words for ya….SHUT THE HELL UP!  Bad parenting is one thing but posting pictures of a woman and choosing to make remarks about her weight has nothing to do with being a good or bad parent.  Posting pictures of children, yes they do this even though they try to lie about it, and choosing to call them names is so pathetic.  This page has been reported numerous time and ABSOLUTELY NOTHING has been done about it!  What is it gonna take for the authorities and admins of Facebook to realize the problem here???

Cyber bullying is a major issue.  There have been documented cases in recent years that address the seriousness of this problem.  Too many people have been targeted and resorted to suicide.  And to the idiots that participate in bullying on the OSMW page…don’t use the line “Stay off the damn page.” to anyone!  I’m sure there are lots of people who have received phone calls letting them know that their picture has been posted, of course without their permission, on this page and horrible remarks being made.  How bout you take down the damn page and stop being assholes?

How about a few examples of what happens when people like this are allowed to continue bullying anyone they choose???

A current case involving a girl making a malicious site, much like our little OSMW bashers, and targeting certain girls that she doesn’t like is facing a heavy fine and a possible one year jail sentence.

Megan Meirer was repeatedly bullied online by Lori Drew.  Now, Lori Drew is an “adult”…if you want to call her that… who pretended to be a boy around Megan’s age.  She then decided to make Megan’s life miserable by bashing her online and choosing to tell her that the world would be better off without her.  Megan, 13 years old, hung herself on October 17, 2006 as a result of the cyber bullying.

Tyler Clementi went through a terrible ordeal as well.  His roommate was posting his homosexual experiences on the Internet.  Clementi took action and complained to get this taken off-line and the situation handled…he was ignored.  Not long after, he jumped to his death.

Ryan Halligan spent the summer of 2003 being bullied online.  Hoping the new school year would hold great things, he began that school year with his head held high.  The vicious bullying continued until being teased and called names got so bad Ryan took his own life one afternoon.

It is such a shame that the authorities and social networking sites are very aware of these problems and the outcomes they can cause, yet choose to do nothing about them.  No one should have to live their life in the shadows worrying about being harassed on the computer.  People shouldn’t have to worry about having their picture taken or being picked on at a school, a store, a post office, in traffic, etc.

Everyone needs to rally together to stop this.  Sometimes it takes a huge group or several small groups all over to make a huge enough impact for the right amount of light to be projected on a particular problem.

Drama among Military Wives…

I’m sure this is gonna cause tons of mixed emotions…but, whatever!  Opinions are like assholes…everybody has one!

I was made aware of a page on Facebook a while back called “Overly Sensitive Military Wives”.  Now, I looked at this page and read what they were about…basically, they claim that they are trying to break the stereotype of military wives.  So, I’m thinking…ok, a page that is gonna focus more on the positive than the negative.  Maybe this page will work hard to show others that the petty and whiney folks aren’t all there is.  DAMN, WAS I WRONG!

This page is so SHITTY!  They take photos of military spouses on posts and publish them to their page and then proceed to say really cruel things.  They will pick on the woman’s clothes, hair, make-up or lack of it, her weight, her child(ren), etc.  This has turned into a cyber bullying issue.  They claim these women in the pictures are petty, overly sensitive and whiney…but they, themselves, are all those things!  The page owner and her little crones (yea I just called them a mean name!) are a bunch of hypocrites!  It’s a huge contradiction calling these spouses petty and whiney when that’s all this page is about!  And why do they care so much about what others are wearing or how their hair is styled?  Basically these dumbass women tote around cameras and phones to take pictures of others due to the fact that they have NO LIFE!  It’s really sad that they have to take photos of others and be so mean just to make themselves feel better.

If you don’t like sweat pants or Twinkies then talk about those two items in particular.  Make up funny things about them.  You don’t have to choose random women to pick on.  Taking their pictures and posting them without their consent may be a legal issue as well.

The woman who runs this page is headed for major trouble!  Bullying people can cause very bad outcomes.  Depression, suicide, low self-esteem and many others are real issues.  Why would these women do this to others?  Overly sensitive….LOL  These women are obviously so damn sensitive it has caused brain leakage!  The immaturity level of this group is so low…  And how would these women feel if their friends or children were going through this?  How would they feel if someone was taking pictures and bullying their friend or child?

I’m not asking or telling anyone not to be a member of this page…just expressing my opinion!  Surely the members of that page can relate to OPINIONS…haha

Bottom line:  Bullying is a serious issue.  It causes pain.  It causes lives to change drastically.  Bullying has caused so many fatal endings within the last few years, especially over the internet.  Do not bully others just because you can, are bored or want to make yourself feel better.  Bullying is WRONG!

http://awomeninherthirties.com/2012/03/27/have-you-been-bullied-on-a-social-network/   Please take a moment to click this link!  We call all work together to stop bullying!

Important Lessons in Life…

Everyone goes through life the same way…just difference situations.  Kids always test their parents, teenagers think their parents are ALWAYS wrong and adults hit that mid-life crazy spot that causes each of us to wonder where their sanity went!  We are all learning life’s little rules and lessons constantly.  Sometimes we think we know the rule/lesson and the outcome but still have to try it anyway!  haha  Here are a few that I have learned…

 

Everyone seems normal…until you get to know them!

Think before you argue…is it gonna matter in one week, one month or one year?  If it won’t, then shut the hell up and move on with it.  No point in arguing about something that is NOT important, even when it seems to be at the time.

Never attempt to give yourself a haircut after 3 alcoholic beverages!  The outcome will be horrendous!

Being happy is the best revenge.  There are more people than you know just waiting for you to be miserable or fail at something.  Be happy, ignore them and laugh like hell that your happiness causes them to get nauseous!

There are only two tools you will ever need…WD-40 and duct tape.  Men, listen up!  This is an important lesson!  If it don’t move but should…use WD40.  If it moves and it souldn’t…use that awesome silver tape!  See?  problem solved!

DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT take a laxative and a sleeping pill on the same night!  This will lead to an unconscious, shitty mess!  LOL

It’s not the jeans that make your butt look fat…it is, in fact, your butt!

Do not lick a steak knife.  This will result in lots of pain and that “I feel like an idiot” feeling…plus you won’t be able to finish your steak!

Never pass on an opportunity to pee!  You will always have to pee at the wrong time…and if you know someone who pees every five minutes (my sister does this!!!), buy them a pack of Depends for road trips!  You can shave two hours off your driving time making them strap those diaper things on!

Cats cannot fly!  They cannot function on a trampoline either!

Never miss the chance to tip over a porta-potty while your buddy is inside of it!  This is priceless!  And those people who turn their noses up at this are just mad that they didn’t think of it first!  LOL

Stupid people are a rare breed indeed!  They are a lot like slinkies…they aren’t good for much except pushing down the stairs!

Do the “Tom Cruise sock slide” at least once.  I would NOT advice trying this in the shower though.  Major problems occur while doing that one!

Going down icy stairs with bowling shoes on is basically the same as skiing!  Well, your arms are not at your side and your back is not straight!  It’s more like arms are everywhere, back looks like it’s about to break and the look on your face is not one of content.