Well, my little family is complete once again! My hubby was out-of-town for two weeks for a class and just got back in last night. It’s nice to have things back to normal again. Although I’m sure it will just be a matter of a few months or so before something else comes up and he has to leave again. Ahh, Army life…
I know there are a lot of new Army wives out there that feel lost and worried. You feel overwhelmed and wonder if your life will ever feel normal. You look at other couples and wonder how they do it or you watch them fall apart. You hear the gossip and the horror stories. Perhaps you are facing your first deployment and the idea of him leaving is tearing you apart. Maybe you are a few months into the deployment and each day feels longer than the last. Whatever the case, I am here to help with any questions or concerns you have. Remember you have tons of support on post and within your FRG (hopefully).
I won’t pretend to have all the answers and I won’t preach that my advice is the best. What I can tell you is…don’t sweat the small stuff. Don’t get bogged down with the things you can’t change. If he is deploying, come to terms with the fact that he is going to deploy. If he has already deployed, take it one day at a time. I know that sounds impossible to do sometimes. You can’t change those orders, so just accept ’em. Take the time to talk with friends and family. Keep your friends around ya. Have a girl’s night or a girl’s spa day. Get the kids together for playdates.
Don’t listen to the gossip and drama! It’s pointless and just weighs you down. It doesn’t matter what wife did what or which husband said this and that. People are gonna talk and they are gonna talk to anyone who will listen. I have met countless chicks who gossip like crazy and will make stuff up just because they are bored as hell. Simply don’t talk to them….or about them.
Oh! I forgot to talk about the holidays! Look, your soldier is gonna miss holidays…the trick is in how you adjust to it. I’ll give ya a few examples…
Halloween~~If he will be home anytime in the month of October, dress up! If ya’ll have children, talk to a few friends and/or family about having a little trick or treating! If that’s not an option, talk to people in your neighborhood. We have done that before! We trick or treated a couple of weeks before the actual holiday.
Christmas~~You can send his gifts to him and maybe get in a video chat. You can have Christmas whenever he gets home. This year we Christmas again in April! He got home that first week of April and we did Christmas all over again.
Valentine’s Day~~This can be done the same as Christmas. Send stuff if you can and then celebrate it when he gets back.
Anyway, you get the idea. Make due with what you can. Take lots of pictures and make scrap books! You will be so glad you did! You will never forget these experiences and will love to look back on the memories of doing Christmas in July!
Hope some of this helps!